Is your sex life putting your relationship at risk?

Is your sex life putting your relationship at risk?
Is your sex life putting your relationship at risk

Sexual desire is a complex interaction of qhormones, emotions and well-being. When your partner is not as interested in sex as you are, it’s rarely a rejection of you as a person. So it’s essential to be as empathetic as you can regarding your differing libidos.

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When your partner’s sex drive is out of sync with yours, it’s important to try to separate facts from emotions.

When two people have mismatched libidos, it can put their relationship at risk. All too often, it can descend into a power struggle, where the partner with the lower sex drive is seen as controlling and the other partner labels themselves as a victim. You can break this pattern of negative emotions by sharing responsibility for initiating sex.

The partner with the higher sex drive is now happier because they are having sex more often than before. The partner with the lower libido is also more content because they appreciate their partner is making an effort. They are creating a romantic encounter rather than taking sex for granted. The new routine also disrupts the patterns of a relationship which might have become stale and boring, and thus reignites the sparks that flew in the early days. Bach Flower Mix 41 can also help to support the libido and boost a low sex drive

Have you or your partner ever considered, or even had an affair?

Some of us find true love at a relatively early age and settle down to live happily ever after with their life partners. But others feel trapped in a long term relationship. Bach Flower Mix 45 is formulated to support people with commitment phobia and fear of rejection.

When it comes to dating, you’re never going to meet Mr or Miss Perfect, someone who is able to meet all your needs and whose needs you can totally fulfil. While you might love your partner, you are both making compromises and sacrifices to be able to live compatibly.

For most people, these compromises demonstrate the value they place on their relationship. But for others, an affair is not so much about seeking a new partner as it is about escape from the sacrifices and realities of everyday life. They are not necessarily in love with their new partner, at least not at first. They have created an ideal image of someone who will value them appropriately. Little thought is given to the partner whom they’ve cheated. When someone has an affair, they are focussing solely on their own unmet needs, whether these are for greater intimacy and affection, more frequent sex or greater self-esteem.

If you believe your relationship is worth saving, look for ways in which your needs can be met in ways that will strengthen your marriage. Reflect on what it is that you’re searching for, then take time take time to talk to your partner and try to rekindle your relationship.

How important is sex in relationships in 2020?

How important is sex in a relationship? Everyone is different, and there’s no simple answer to this question. For some, sex is essential, but many people have happy, fulfilling relationships while seldom or never having sex. There are numerous reasons why you might not want to have sex, including:

  • Having a low sex drive
  • Wanting to wait until marriage before having sex
  • An underlying health problem that causes pain

Bach Flower Mix 94 can help to ease chronic pain caused by conditions such as fibromyalgia and arthritis.

Sexual desire exists on a spectrum. Some people are asexual and feel only minimal or no sexual attraction, although they may still sometimes have sex. However, for others, sex is an essential part of their relationship and is the most important way in which they express their love for their partner.

If your sex drive doesn’t match that of your partner, your relationship could be at risk. Try not to use your insecurities as weapons, be kind, honest and open, and you can work together to save your relationship.

Is your relationship worth saving?

There are a few things that will tell you whether or not your relationship is worth fighting for. Look out for signs that your partner is trying to make things work out. Your relationship will never succeed if you’re the only one trying. Your partner also needs to want to make it last.

However, this is just a rule of thumb. Only you can decide. If you love your partner, if you’ve had a long history together and have shared many good times, and perhaps have children, you might decide to give your relationship another chance.


Marie Pure

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